Sparks Speaks Out™ - Susan's Tell-All Blog
In the world of domestic abuse, words mean everything. Words and intimidation are carefully crafted weapons that are used in the same way that fists and other objects are used in the world of domestic violence.
But words can also heal and words can bring hope. For twenty years I lost my words while I hid behind closed doors and lived in fear. I have a lot to say about that. I say it for you. I say it for me. I say it for everyone who is, has, or will be touched by domestic abuse. It’s finally time to shake things up.
What better time than today to take a closer look at love? What did we once think it would be, and how are we feeling about that now?read more
What did one boy do when faced with immediate danger, and what can we learn from it? Find out, it could save your life one day.read more
Why a Survivor of Domestic Abuse would work in the field of abuse. Susan poses the question: What are we going to tell our kids?read more
You’ve had the answers all along – how will you use them? I recently spoke with two members in the field of psychology and those conversations have rocked my world. Starting with one and ending with another, I discovered why I keeping messing up my relationships and...read more
Let’s countdown to a safer 2019. For many, the holidays are a time of joy, togetherness, and warm memories made in front of crackling fireplaces. When friends, family, and loved ones come together, there are celebrations, traditions, and lots of presents to open. But,...read more
A simple plan that will teach you how to stop running from your fear. While once we have been traumatized there is no substitute for actual therapy, I have learned from my own therapist that we have to have strategies at home, on our own, to turn to when life comes...read more
An abuse survivor and former member of the sports industry has a message for the NFL. A lot of media attention has been placed on Reuben Foster recently as he was released by the San Francisco 49ers and then immediately picked up by the Washington Redskins after being...read more
Domestic What? Exactly. There are so many silent epidemics that plague women in our nation, and yet domestic abuse is one that we often still struggle with. We recognize mental illness, cardiovascular disease, and Lyme disease when these strike women. Some are hard to...read more
Answers from the Other Side To say dating is tricky for survivors of domestic abuse (SODAs®) is beyond an understatement. Our lives, once full of ridicule, rage, harassment, control, fear, intimidation, and so much more, may have started over when we were able to...read more
2 Things You Must Know Before Going through a Divorce with Your Abuser – And the 2 Things You Can Do About It.
Once a twenty year victim, and now a six year Survivor of Domestic Abuse (SODA®), I don’t often see myself as a victim any longer. But I have to tell you there are still those days. It occurred to me today that I should tell you about them too, because it’s not fair...read more
Who Said ‘Domestic Violence’? I didn’t think so… Not taking anything away from National Breast Cancer Awareness Month – October – I am struggling with the fact that it is shared with another cause that so desperately needs our nation’s attention and may be getting...read more
Why you are the only one who can write your formula for success. I wrote something this morning for a media interview and I immediately thought to myself, “Wow, I have to write about this and I have to talk about this, like RIGHT NOW.” So many of us, like me, are...read more
Enough talking. It's time to mobilize for action. I was at a football game this weekend. This is something I wasn’t able to do before, but can now with the freedom I have in my new life. I had an amazing time! The stadium I was in held over 70,000 people and it was a...read more
Advice from a Survivor Of Domestic Abuse (SODA™) The other day someone I work with said, “Susan, you’re just too nice. You’re so nice to everyone and sometimes you just can’t be that nice.” I was just about to thank her for the advice and then stopped. That would be...read more
What I learned about all of us when I went back and tried again. I remember my days behind closed doors when I felt stuck in my abusive marriage. I knew that what I had was not love, could not be love, but somehow I still felt love for this person that I was living...read more
Advice from someone who’s been there. As I sit watching the hurricane coverage this week, it’s hard not to make a comparison between the force and magnitude of the storm and what was once my life of domestic abuse. People are being told to leave their homes like it’s...read more
Take action before it’s too late. Many women tend to fall for men who appear to be alpha males. They are those guys who guide you with a hand at the small of your back, who make decisions about where you will go and with whom, who care so much that they want to know...read more
How smart devices can make life at home even more difficult for victims of domestic abuse and violence It’s no secret that smart devices like Amazon’s Alexa and Google Home have revolutionized the way we live these days, turning our heat up and down, raising the...read more